I had a mother who understood this law beautifully. Mother wanted to come to this country on a vacation, and she would appropriate it. She would actually. in those days you didn’t buy dresses. You brought your dressmaker home and you selected the cloth and she would make you dresses. She had all her dresses made. My father was busy in the business world. He knew nothing of this daily activity of my mother . . having all these dresses made. And she appropriated the trip to New York City while physically she was in the little island of Barbados. Then my father would come home and say: “You know . . I don’t want you here. You don’t look very well. You look tired, and so I’ve just booked you for New York City, and you are sailing next week. All you have to do now is go and get a visa, because you are sailing next week and you are going to be there three months.” She would protest: “Oh,” she said, “No, Joseph, that’s so expensive. You shouldn’t do it.” Well, she already did it! She knew exactly what she was doing, but he wanted that feeling of one who was being generous, and she knew that he was the man of the house and if he did all these lovely things for her it would be nicer . . it would make him feel that he was so generous. And so she pleased him by protesting, when in her heart of hearts she knew exactly what she was doing. So I say: Do it all in your wonderful Imagination. She would not have done it, if for one moment she thought he couldn’t afford it, because she loved him and she loved the children she bore him. But why deprive him of the ability to do it or the desire to do it? Allow him full freedom to have the money to pay for it and the desire to do it. He could have had much more and not have the desire to do it. But she didn’t argue with him. She simply appropriated the trip and “lived” in New York City. And as she did it, he had the brilliant idea to send her to New York City.575 ¶29